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Karezza sex is the key to a passionate love life. Find out what it's all about

Wed, 2017-08-23 17:19

Here's the newest thing everyone's buzzing about: Karezza sex! What exactly is this and how will it spice up your sex life? Read on!

The rules are laid out pretty loud and clear — When it comes to sex, having orgasms is the ultimate goal every couple has. And that is the shortcoming (pun intended) of the way we perceive sex. Much like life, sex isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.

People are always looking to reinvent their sex life and are always hunting down new ways to spice things up in the bedroom. Experts around the globe have been trying to do the same and here’s the newest thing everyone’s buzzing about — Karezza sex! What exactly is this? Who came up with this? What’s the history behind this and how will it spice up your sex life? Read on!

Experts have said that if couples can ignite the kind of passion Victorians showed towards sex, their love life would be way more exciting. The secret of real intimacy lies in a bedroom practice from the 19th century called Karezza. Karezza encourages both males and females to abstain from orgasms while having sex. The basic gist of the idea is: abstain from climaxing and your love making experience will be longer and more intimate. Don’t focus on orgasms, focus on forming an emotional connection and affection to create a deep feeling that leaves you feeling loved and fulfilled.

Karezza involves a lot of caressing, passionate gazing and touching instead of focusing on orgasming. Of course, not everyone agrees with this technique. Many people have put forth arguments saying why would they run a race and not even cross the finishing line? But there have been a plethora of couples who have said that this Victorian technique has really helped their sex life and they enjoy making love more often now.

Doctors believe that tuning into your sexual energies and channeling them in the bedroom via passion sends sensations that feel like electricity running down your body and create a full-body orgasm that can last as long as you want it to, instead of the rather brief type genital orgasm that everyone runs towards.

Here’s the main question though: Would you enjoy sex that does not involve orgasms? Tell us what you think.

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Categories: Healthy sexuality

Is VICTORIAN sex the key to a more passionate love life? (The Daily Mail)

Fri, 2017-08-18 02:44
Is VICTORIAN sex the key to a more passionate love life? Controversial technique from the 19th century promises to improve any relationship
  • The practice of karezza encourages a focus on intimacy rather than orgasm 
  • The phrase, which is taken from the Italian word for 'caress', was coined by Chicago obstetrician and gynecologist Dr. Alice Bunker Stockham in 1896
  • By not having a 'finish line' couples will experience sexual energy for longer

Relationship experts are constantly coming up with newfangled ways to make sex more exciting for couples, but some specialists claim that when it comes to passion the Victorians had it right.

In a new book, London-based sex therapists Mike Lousada and Louise Mazanti reveal that a bedroom trend from the 19th century could be the key to better sex and closer intimacy.

The practice, karezza, encourages both men and women to abstain from orgasm during sex, in order to allow both partners to enjoy longer, and more intense, periods of sexual energy.

The word karezza was coined by Dr. Alice Bunker Stockham in 1896, a Chicago obstetrician and gynecologist, who was only the fifth woman to become a doctor in the United States. 

Dr. Stockham was an outspoken feminist who crusaded for birth control, a ban on corsets and sexual fulfillment for both men and women. 

Rather than focusing on physical desires karezza, derived from the Italian carezza which means caress, encourages couples to focus on intimacy involving eye gazing and light touching. 

The practice, which was also known as coitus reservatus, or sexual continence, was highly controversial in the Victorian era, however still proved popular among more forward-thinking couples.

And now, Lousada and Manzati, authors of Real Sex, claim that by implementing the practice of karezza in their own sex lives, modern-day couples can learn to appreciate 'subtle sensations' that often go unnoticed.

Speaking to the Metro they said: ‘The point of the exercise is to move away from friction-based sex and to create an awareness of more subtle but equally pleasurable sensations.  

‘When we really tune in to these sensations, a bit like electricity running through our body, then our whole body can become orgasmic. 

'This creates a full-body orgasm that can last as long as we chose for it to, instead of the rather brief type of genital orgasm that we refer to as a ‘pelvic sneeze’.’ 

Their theory is supported by doctors and karezza has been seen as a natural alternative to Viagra, and possibly a cure for sexual dysfunction, or lack of desire, in women.

Exploring the connections between sexual behavior, neurochemistry, and relationship harmony, doctors have found that 80 different regions of the brain reach their maximum activity during orgasm.

This overstimulation of the pleasure receptors can desensitise the brain to pleasure or create a craving for more, leading to unhealthy cravings and an imbalance in the brain's harmony. 

Research shows that in karezza sexual energy continues to flow as there is no 'finish line', which advocates say helps to prevent boredom with a partner. 

  • Smiling, with eye contact 
  • Gazing into each others eyes for several moments 
  • Synchronised breathing 
  • Cradling, or gently rocking, your partner’s head and torso 
  • Holding, or spooning, each other in stillness for at least twenty minutes to a half-hour 
  • Wordless sounds of contentment and pleasure 
  • Stroking, hugging and massaging with intent to comfort, rather than gain something 
  • Lying with your ear over your partner’s heart and listening to his or her heartbeat for several moments 
  • Touching and sucking of nipples/breasts 
  • Gently placing your palm over your lover’s genitals with intent to comfort 
  • Making time together at bedtime a priority, even if one partner has to get up and work on something afterward

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Categories: Healthy sexuality

Could this Victorian sex move revitalise your sex life?

Sat, 2017-08-12 01:25

Sometimes in a relationship, sex can get a little stale.

It’s perfectly normal, but as a sex writer the number one question I get asked is ‘how do I get those first time feelings back?’ The honest truth is that you can’t. There’s no way of making things totally new again. But there are plenty of ways of making them deeper, more passionate and more exciting than ever before. And isn’t that just as good?

Two people who are trying to bring better, happier and healthier sex are Mike Lousada and Louise Mazanti, authors of new book Real Sex.

There’s a whole lot to Mike and Louise’s theories (an entire book’s worth in fact!) but reading their book, on specific exercise struck me as properly effective. So, we’re sharing it with you.

The Karezza exercise from Real Sex by Mike Lousada and Louise Mazanti PhD

This exercise is a variation on the original version, developed by Dr Alice Stockham and described in her 1896 book Karezza: Ethics of

Its aim is to increase awareness of subtler sensations and to move away from orgasm as the goal of sex. the name comes, she said, from the Italian for caress – ‘carezza.’

This exercise is most effective with a partner but you can also do it on your own. it focuses on male-female partnering but includes other

1. Start with the man lying on one side and the woman on her back.
The man manoeuvres himself so that one leg lies over the woman’s legs. The man brings his genitals into contact with the woman’s
genitals – it’s important that they’re touching. The man does not need to be erect although if he gets an erection during this process, that’s okay, too.

2. If done between same-sex partners, either gender can simply hold their genitals against the other’s and begin the exercise as above.

3. If you don’t have a partner, you can simply lie comfortably and hold your hand over your genitals without moving it and without trying to make anything happen.

4. The idea is simply to lie with genitals touching, without movement, without penetration, for at least 30 minutes. Let your breath be soft and relaxed, breathing deeply without forcing it.

5. As you lie together you can make eye contact. Keep your attention in your genitals and notice what you feel as you lie together in this
way. There may be a strong impulse to move into penetration. You may want to begin giving your genitals more stimulation. Resist the temptation to do so.

6. Maybe at first sight this seems like a stupid exercise and you may not notice anything happening. If you are used to intense stimulation
or firm movements in penetration you might not notice the subtler feelings that can arise from this exercise.

7. Stay present with the experience and try to feel the subtler sensation of sexual energy – the background pleasure that is always available to us if we allow it and if we’re not focused on how we expect sex to feel or look like.

8. After a while, you may begin to feel some gentle sensations first in your genitals then moving out through your whole body.

9. Allow this expression of Eros energy to flow through your body just by focusing your intention on sensation, however subtle or strong
it might feel. Gradually it may begin to feel like a kind of sexual electricity shivering through your body.

10. It may be difficult to notice when you first try this exercise, but repeated practice of this exercise will give you intense feelings of pleasure and a deep sense of connection with your partner.

11. It’s possible in the Karezza to experience orgasm without any physical stimulation or movement and for pleasure to flow through
both partners without involving any sexual ‘techniques’.

So why is the Karezza an important part of your sexual arsenal? Well, we chatted to the authors Mike Lousada and Louise Mazanti, who told Metro.co.uk:

‘The point of the exercise is to move away from friction-based sex and to create an awareness of more subtle but equally pleasurable sensations.  Its relevant today because pornography tends to focus on the idea that more intensity means better sex.

‘Sadly, the more we focus on intensity, the more we lose connection with more subtle pleasures.  The Karezza helps us to reconnect with what at first seem subtle sensations but are, in fact, more powerful than big thrusting movements.

‘When we really tune in to these sensations, a bit like electricity running through our body, then our whole body can become orgasmic.  This creates a full-body orgasm that can last as long as we chose for it to, instead of the rather brief type of genital orgasm that we refer to as a ‘pelvic sneeze’.’

So if you haven’t got any weekend plans, can we suggest that maybe you spend Friday night in bed..? You can find out more here.

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